Are you grateful for being on the right side of the door?

It’s winter here in Lahore, Pakistan. Not cold enough to snow, still the temperatures can fall well below 10 Degree Celsius. A week ago, not too happy with the dinner menu at home, I decided to order fast food. The expected time was 45 minutes as told by the fast food chain call center operator which was okay. We were hungry, 45 minutes passed. Then another 15, we got hungrier, and another 15. Still no sign of the food. Finally I got a call from the person who was supposed to deliver the food. He had no clue at all what the location was and asked me for direction. I was quite frustrated to hear this. I gave him the directions and hung up. I’m not giving him any tip I said to myself !

Finally after a total of 2 hours, 15 minutes the door bell rang. I went down to pick the food. It was really cold ! The guy was there on a motorcycle, riding it for an hour before he found my place. With an embarrassed smile, he said “Sorry sir, it took so long.” I told him to leave it and hand me the bill and the food, which he did. I gave the money, with a tip much lower than I usually give since I was not too happy. I told him to keep the change. He didn’t understand, and tried to return the change. I told him again. He still didn’t get it. I then explained to him the bill is x, I gave you y and you can keep the remaining amount, it’s for you. He was quite happy and said “Thank you very much sir.” I had tipped him so less yet he was so humble and thankful, I was surprised. I quickly closed the door and stepped back in to the house.

The moment I came back in I realized, it was not entirely his fault. The food chain might have weak processes, where there is variation in order processing time. May be they don’t follow standards, may be they are understaffed, may be this was an anomaly, whatever the reason, it is not this guy’s fault. I then wondered how come he had to be the one who rode his bike in this cold, dark winter night while I was the one who was sitting in his warm house to waiting to enjoy the food which this guy brought with such difficulty. May be he did not take his education seriously when he should have. May be he spent time wandering the streets when he should have focused on his future. Or may it was not like that at all. May be the conditions in his family forced him to take a job instead of studying. Then again, may be the guy had some intellectual disability since he had a hard time finding the way and understanding that I was giving him a tip. Who was I to judge him I came to realize. I had been fortunate enough to have all the luxuries and he was not. “I am so blessed” I thought. Yet what do I do, instead of being grateful for what I have, I worry about what more I want and how I can get it. The next raise, the next promotion, the next car, the next house?

I was and still am so lucky to be on this side of the door, the side leading to the comfort and luxuries of my house, my family, my great job. So are most of us! All of us, who can read this through our computers, laptops, cell phones, all of us are better than billions of others who can’t even afford to eat a single cold meal everyday ! Who don’t know whether there will be a next meal for their children or not. Let’s be grateful for what we have! Let’s start 2015 with a vow to be happy and enjoy with what we have achieved in our career, and share this happiness and success with others!

Wish you a very happy, successful and blessed new year… !

Warm Regards,

Rashid

 

 

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Hi, I’m SUPERMAN and I WANT you to hire me !

Superman

Let’s look at a very common resume myth. Most of us often use top section of the resume to write “Objective” or “Career Objective”. It is a 2-3 line statement which goes something like “A superman or wonder woman with extraordinary abilities to save the planet. I aspire for a position in a fortune 500 company where I can utilize my superpowers for the benefit of the organization and my personal super fast growth”. Or atleast, that’s the idea we are trying to convey, right?

There’s no harm with a decent self-branding now and then, but blowing your own trumpets with general statements such as above without any evidence to support them and then telling the recruiter what YOU WANT (I aspire…) may not be the best of ideas. Here’s why:

Typically for most positions, a recruiter may have just a few seconds, as experts say less than 10 seconds to look at one resume, and i.e. if they look at a resume at all. During those 10 seconds, the first thing they expect to see is your name, picture, address etc at the top. But after that, do you really want them to spend these few seconds looking at how arrogant you are and what you want from the company? What’s In It For Them? The recruiter, the company?

Better to start off with your experience, or if you are a fresh graduate, with your educational qualifications. If you absolutely MUST write something at the top replace the objective section with “Summary”. Use this to mention very specifically and to the point what you have to offer.

An easy way could be “Your Title/Profession + Experience + Key Accomplishment”. Like for a fresh graduate, it could be “Fresh Mechanical Engineer with exposure of organizing/winning XYZ international competition” or “Mechanical Engineer with experience of 3 internships in Multinational companies” for an experienced professional it could be “A PMP Certified Project Manager with 5 years experience of leading 1 Billion Rupees projects”.


Again, writing objective or even summary is just an old myth, but if you really want to, write a summary instead of an objective as this way you are selling your best feature to the recruiter and trying to make a good first impression.

I have become an Engineer – I’m ready to conquer the world ! Or am I?

Help me ! I need your advice. I live in Pakistan, and I want to buy a car, something not too fancy but say around 1600CC or close, give or take 300 CCs, which car should I buy? Honda City? Toyota Corolla GLi? Why do these names come to mind? Everybody’s talking about them? The value for money? The features? The quality? Can I some it up in one word, “brand” ? You wouldn’t experiment with some local/Chinese car, would you? Consider yourself a brand also, why would most people want to choose you if you have nothing special to offer? Sure someone might, but it may not be what YOU wanted. Although what you can do, how much your expertise is an important factor, but more importantly the game is about your perceived expertise. How others see you.

Mechanical Engineers, like most other engineers, pride themselves in having an engineering degree, after all why shouldn’t we? We spent 16 years studying our ass off (more or less). This long marathon, fueled by our desire to be “rich”, “to build”, “to go places”, “to make our parents proud”, “to drive THAT car”, “to buy a beautiful house”, the even harder years from grade 9 till 12, in school and college, the four years in university, we have done our part, there’s nothing more to do now, we will hunt jobs, party and see how it goes. I belt we will kick-ass in the interview. We are as good as we can be, after all we can solve 4 page long numericals of Thermodynamics, or we can design a heat exchanger like no one else, we have given our best and learnt as much as we can. I suppose we wouldn’t be wrong to think like that, we know what we went through to get here. But how many more of us have reached HERE? What is the population of this town, called HERE. There are limited vacancies, but the candidates are so many. Are you better than other? How do you know? Oh, so you have a GPA of 4.0, great ! Guess what, there are many others with 4.0. What about 3.5, 3.0 2.5, 2.0, etc? You can imagine your rank now. So what do you have which is different from others? Why is your brand worth the company’s hiring team’s time. Why should they invite you for an interview an listen your side of the story?

For some jobs, there may be thousands of applications, what can you do to improve your perceived value? How can you try to get shortlisted for that interview among all others, and later how can you perform well in that interview, we will talk about that in this blog, and get expert opinion from successful engineers and learn from their experience. Post job opportunities. Try to help one another, find jobs, get them and excel at them by developing ourselves !

Click here to visit Mechanical Career Care !

Searching You !

It’s been long, so long

Since I’ve been searching u

Tracing u..

Missing u..

Staring u..

 

I searched u all around me

And found you inside me

How you enchanted me

How you mesmerized me

How you took my breath away

And still you are far away!

 

When I gave up counting on clue

When I gave up searching for u

You came from nowhere

You blessed me with life!

You blessed me with sight!

You are my most precious gift

Whom GOD blessed me by

 

And now as I’ve fallen for you

Hoping that you’ve fall for me too

I see nothing but you

My world my heavens

Own you

Praise you

Crave for you ..

You stamped my soul..

And now it’s been long, so long

Since I’ve been searching myself !

 

By : Dania.Rashid

High Time ( A Tribute to all Oldies )

Flowing through the oceans

Climbing up the mountains

Sinking in the sea

Up in the trees

Down on the streets!

Getting all the view

Holding all the news

There’s a call round the corner

A call to get free!

Just throw up all the worries

Clean your hands with furry

Take deeper breathes

Listen to the beatings

Hear the sweet callings

Get in the world of dreams!

Time to get rewarded

Angel’s waiting to greet

This Life is ending soon

Your moment to get a feast!

By : Dania.Rashid

10 books,10 authors and 2 of us !

This Saturday,it was raining at our place and like every weekend me and my husband woke up quite late and had our usual, special, filling weekend breakfast/lunch.We ate “Parathas”- (Form of chapatti which is soaked and cooked in pure condensed oil). While we were chatting with family we got to know that there’s an International Book Fair at our City’s Expo Center. Books!!m Yes we heard right and just there and then we planned to hurry our ways to the fair. It was raining outside so roads were slippery and way to the Expo was quite far from our home but still me and my husband just wanted to be there ! So we got ready and set on our way. Weather was beautiful. Rain,day time and long drive ! Well, what a beautiful start of a weekend.

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Rain drops on our car’s window

Finally we reached the Expo in about half hour. There was a long waiting queue of cars as they were thoroughly checked before entering. Just to mention,this was our first time coming to Expo and as we entered we were  amazed to see how huge it was.As we stepped out of the car,chilled freezing wind was there to welcome us but we didn’t mind it as we were busy in clicking for the proud building that stood there with thousands and thousand of books in her lap !

Front view of Expo from parking

Front view of Expo from parking

There wasn’t any particular book in our minds to buy and we felt as if we would come back bare handed but as all book lovers know “One can never get enough out of books”. So we went in,skim through different stalls and sections. There was humongous variety of every type of book. Countries like India,Singapore, Turkey etc also had their stalls there. Anyway,it was already an hour since we came in and there wasn’t a single book that we bought so far. How boring,rite? We went to other hall of the fair and there there ! It was like a place specially designed for our taste. We grabbed 8 books from that single stall and felt really good and at the same time got an urge to keep looking and buy more. Fair was exciting.There were sales, arts competition for kids etc. It was a mixture of fancy and literal fair.

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Fancy book fair

We roamed about for quite sometime and finally bought two more books. We were tired as we walked much while strolling through stall by stall. It was time to grab ourselves dinner so we decided to sign out.It was a nice experience. We were glad we made good use of our weekend and time and  got ourselves some nice books to read.Now that 10 new books took place in our room’s shelf they keep  starring at us all day long,asking to be read ! Eyeing us sometimes as if they are saying “leave those laptops and grab us to read right now ! ”

Our new books

Our new books

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           By: Dania.Rashid

Heart vs Mind

“Am I allowed to dream….?” One day, when eyes dares to ask.

“No!” ordered the Mind.

The heart contracted and expanded swiftly…

Why?” heart argued.

The heart had all the means to ask the question, but the mind was not obliged to answer.

Why, Why, Why!

Heart bumped his head for a long time when he got the silent sympathetic answer.

“Because I don’t want you to suffer!” mind whispered.

“So am I not suffering now?”

“You are a cruel person. You don’t know the meaning of emotion. You can never understand the dreamland woven by the eyes can be accomplished by the power of you and me…Why don’t you realize?” , Heart shouted in dismay.

“I understand but don’t you know that not all the dreams are fulfilled? And what a disaster breaks off when the dreams are shattered?

And don’t you know the bigger the dream shattered, the bigger the disaster is??

The more devastated the body is…?

The more vacant the eyes are..?”

 

(Eyes had started damping their lashes throughout the cross argument)

“Why are you becoming the enemy of yourself?”

Why are doing the things, reason less! Without any logic! Crazy? Isn’t it?”,Mind scolded.

The Master,The Mind was like handling the dais, eager to convince the Heart with all the tools and weapons of logical speech skills.

“Would you like to give me a single logical reason?”

“LAME EXCUSES!” Heart was now furious at his insult.

“O you chicken! Why don’t you shortly say that you are a coward…? You are frightened that’s only the matter! Frightened of the approach of the dreams…You simply, have not the capabilities to face the failures!”

“Hey! You are blaming me now. Its you…who will be disappointed at the failures…Not me!

Its you…who will do care for all the feelings…who will take calamities to injure your health!

Who is not able to face realities!

Who is escaped of the bitterness of the present tense! Escaped into the imaginary future.

It’s you…and not me, my sweets!” Mind claimed.

 

Heart was speechless for a moment but eyes were still pouring the pearls out of its premises…

“This is a real world, and a real human have to live in it ‘real’ and not “imaginary’…Look through the eyes…how disgusting is the world…Entirely unmatched with your demands!”,  Mind bragged.

Eyes raised their brows and looked around. Mind was right. He was a sympathetic father now.

But eyes, like non-obedient children, were not going to lose the battle, anyways..!

“But you should remember that the eyes, who dare to dream, are the eyes that are bound to succeed” Heart gave its final shot.

Eye balls rolled themselves.

“All right!” The Mind gave up. “Do as your heart desired…but remember! At your own risk! As I know, you people are the slaves of dreams and desire of heart! You could never come to the track”

Eyes magined standing in the Mind’s shoes, and she sensed that the brain in right. So, the kind heart sacrificed his never ending dreams, for the sake of the tears of eyes…

 

And from that day on wards , the stony eyes never dared to dream again!

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(By: Dania.Rashid)